bars
Posted on: April 24, 2010
Could somebody please explain to me the appeal of bars? They seem to be the destination of choice on Friday and Saturday night (and Thursdays, too). I went to one for Alicia Keys’s 30th birthday, and I could not escape getting elbowed and stepped on twice. I don’t drink, so I got no artificial pleasure to lean on. I don’t dance, so you didn’t find me in the center of the mob pit. I hate the noise and crowd.
I have enjoyed bars from time to time. Especially if I feel like letting loose. But are you telling me regular bar-goers feel like letting loose every week? Really?
Ok, let’s just accept the possibility that I’m just too uptight for this stuff… I’m just not in the mood to change at the moment… ok?
ina
7 Responses to "bars"
2 | ina
April 24, 2010 at 10:26 pm
I just don’t enjoy looking like an idiot when I go out with bar-going friends. I just can’t seem to get into it like they do… I feel abnormal.
3 | Halfawake
April 24, 2010 at 10:32 pm
From your post it sounds like your uncomfortable with the bar scene, and it’s understandable that you wouldn’t enjoy it. I don’t drink either, so I can relate.
4 | ina
April 24, 2010 at 10:39 pm
I bet you don’t look stupid though… I found a spot to just sit and check my email, and a guy (probably 23 years old) came to talk to me. I held off on telling him I was married — it was nice to not look like a total anti-social for 5 minutes.
5 | Halfawake
April 24, 2010 at 11:11 pm
I just now realized that Alicia Keys is a pseudonym for one of your friends.
6 | Christine Laubenstein
April 25, 2010 at 12:05 pm
Hey Ina,
I understand your disdain for the bar scene. I’m not into clubby bars at all. I do, however, like chill bars where you can sit and talk with friends. You don’t have to get alcohol if you don’t want. I went to a pub the other day and got orange juice, followed by a coffee, followed by a water. Do you like chill bars, too?
Christine
7 | Tina
April 25, 2010 at 1:20 pm
I can enjoy going to a bar if I have a place to sit and talk. If the music is too loud is terrible! You can’t hear the other person and your voice is hoarse the next day! I guess who you go with helps a little bit. Crowded bars are not my thing either.
April 24, 2010 at 10:22 pm
Do you feel pressure to change? Or are you trying to understand what the appeal is for others?